Psychology Hacks: How To "Win" The Break-up

April 20, 2016

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We will all experience breaking up or parting from someone at least once in our lives. The end of any romantic relationship has its negative effects such as loneliness, distress, and a loss of sense of self. Aside from these negative outcomes, break-ups can also lead to fruitful results such as personal growth and self-improvement. A good coping strategy shall encourage individuals to focus on the positive aspects of their experience while simultaneously minimizing negative emotions. 

Here are some ways to positively handle your recent break-up: 


Accept your emotions and allow yourself to grieve - to feel pain and anger. We all grieve in different ways, which is why there is no actual time limit for it. But, there is a difference between healthy grieving and drowning in depression and regret. Set a maximum of 30 minutes of grieving each day followed by an uplifting task. This will allow you to reflect and process your loss. 


You may feel less motivated to prepare meals or to groom yourself a breakup, but push yourself and continue to do the same routines as before. It may require extra effort at first - fortunately, it gets better in time.


When the pain is fresh, do not forget to take care of yourself. Prioritize adequate sleep because deprivation can cause you to feel more emotional. Also, avoid overworking. Overworking creates a negative pattern that may be hard to break and it also let you avoid the sadness you must acknowledge. 


You may feel that you want to be alone however; isolation often leads to exacerbation of sadness and other negative thoughts. It is better to push yourself to interact with other people as they can help you to move forward. Meet-up with your friends or family and talk to them about how you feel. Do not be afraid or ashamed, they love you. They will not judge.


If none of the things above worked, it is time to seek the expert's help. There is nothing to be ashamed of because breaking up is a painful process that needs effort, time, and emotion to move on. Seeing a therapist to process the residual emotions and thoughts is a healthy way to deal with a breakup, especially if you’re feeling guilt, regret or starting to dwell in sadness.
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Source: Adapted from Psychology of Love, Money, & Life's Chapter 9: HOW TO POSITIVELY DEAL WITH BREAK-UPS. If you want to read more, get the full version of this article and other interesting topics related to Psychology by getting your very own eBook today!

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