Social Psychology: Why Do Mistresses Exist?

October 22, 2015


By: Anna Agoncillo
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As much as people despise the "other woman" or the "other man", they are there for a reason. History suggests that powerful men tend to gather great numbers of women and as we all know, history can repeat itself. Modern times cannot escape the existence of mistresses.


Let me start by discussing why married men are deemed to be attractive by some. 

1. MATE POACHING

In the game of love, does the statement: "Monkey see, Monkey do" apply?

Well, it just may. 

A study found that people take cues from others on deciding who is attractive. For instance, the findings showed that women who are single were more attracted to the photographs of men who were said to be "in a relationship". 

2. SENSE OF COMMITMENT

Having a wife along gives out an impression that you are able to handle major commitments. Commitment, defined as a state of being dedicated or faithful to something, is a genuinely attractive quality to possess. A marriage signifies commitment because it requires tons of patience, attention, and money.

3. REWARDS OF THE THRILL

Some of us are born to be thrill-seekers. And, sneaking out with your mistress has its thrills. The sexual act in itself may feel more libidinous as it is forbidden. Furthermore, having sexual intercourse in the married man or woman's bed can give an exhilarating and daring thrill full of passion and lust. 


Then, I will enumerate several reasons why mistresses can be enticing.

According to the personal experience of the writer named Melle Gre, here are the positive qualities that mistresses may possess:

1. THEY CAN BE FUN TO BE AROUND.

2. THEY SHOW INTEREST ON THE MAN OR WOMAN'S HOBBIES.


3. THEY DO NOT JUDGE AND ENCOURAGE FULL DISCLOSURE.


4. THEY TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES.


5. THEY AFFIRM THEIR PARTNER AND MAKE THEM FEEL IMPORTANT. 



Lastly, I will share the disadvantages of having a mistress...

1. HAVING A WIFE AND A MISTRESS CAN BE EXPENSIVE

It is no surprise that being married with kids can be expensive because you are responsible for the life or more than two people. Adding a part-time mistress in the mix will only make your financial situation worse.

Chatrooms classify mistresses into two namely: high-maintenance and low-maintenance. High-maintenance mistresses are so extravagant that they want to be taken out to expensive restaurants from time to time. While, low-maintenance mistresses can settle for a meal at a popular food chain. 

2. HAVING A MISTRESS IS TIME CONSUMING

Squeezing in your mistress with your work and family time can be difficult at times. This is something you must heavily consider.
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3. HAVING A MISTRESS CAN BE STRESSFUL

It can be hard to sneak around constantly. Some men may have successfully conduct their affairs for over a period of years but others may manage to get caught the first time. The consequences of the affair such as having an illegitimate child, can be stressful.

This is why it is best to have no more than one mistress at a time.

Or better yet, just do not have a mistress at all! 

Sources: 1, 2, 3, & 4


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