Psychology, Love, And Advice: How To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

February 09, 2015


By: Anna Agoncillo

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As Rumi once said, “Let yourself be silently drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love".

Be bold enough to follow what your heart speaks, even if what you really love is thousands of miles away. Speaking from experience, a long distance relationship (LDR) may be hard at first but you will have to conquer the obstacles together.

Both of you shall be willing to give up your time and effort to keep the relationship alive. If you survive the distance…your relationship can survive anything.

1. LDRs ARE MORE COMMON THAN YOU THINK

You are not alone. A study by Cornell University showed that between a quarter and a half of college students are currently in a long distance relationship. Surely, being in a LDR while in your 20s will help you find yourself without being defined by anybody else. 

If you are new to the scene and you feel uneasy…get the support you need from your family, friends, or online forums. LDRs are present in all walks of life so do not fret.

2. OPEN COMMUNICATION IS ESSENTIAL

Isn't it crazy that a person who is far from you can make you feel better than the one beside you? 

Talking is the most important part of surviving any relationship. With the new found technology, it is easier to communicate with another person that is on the other side of the world. You may call, text, chat, video conference, and so on.
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It is important to have an open communication by scheduling it (e.g., have an alarm set if you live in different time zones). It is okay if you do not have anything exciting to say.

Even little things such as: "Have a great day." or "I love you!" will help keep the bond flaming. Leaving a voice message or calling up in your partner's morning time is surely the best as she/he wakes up in the melody of your voice. 


3. PLAN THE SPECIAL DAYS

Being in a sea of uncertainty is the worst. So as much as possible, set up the date or month when you will see each other next. Counting down the days to the special meeting will act as a light at the end of the hardships of being away with each other.



4. SAVE UP FOR TRAVEL FUND

LDRs can be expensive, which is why it is important to follow a strict budget and save up for your travels. Do not spend your money on anything other than what is necessary. Be resourceful and creative.

5. ABSENCE MAKE THE HEART GROW FONDER

"with you is where I'd rather be…but we are stuck where we are" ~Bruno Mars

If you found that one person who is really worth the sacrifices, pain, and hardships then your efforts will not go to waste.

One of the best things about a long-distance relationship is the first time you get to hug and kiss each other as you reunite. Before you part ways, trade your perfume or cologne so your partner can spray it on the pillow before he/she sleeps.

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