7 Surefire Ways To Make People Like You
February 02, 2016 |
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Win the hearts of many and influence others by using these Psychology-based tips to make yourself more likable:
1. MIRRORING
According to my counseling classes, one of the easiest ways to make people like you is to mimic them. This enables you to validate the feelings and behavior of the person you are interacting with. In fact, studies have shown that people who were mimicked felt happier, more confident, and more agreeable. So copy one's mannerisms, speech patterns, tone, and behaviors and act as naturally as possible.
2. SMILING
Nothing charms a person more than a genuine and sweet smile! Wearing a smile sends a positive message as it triggers the release of endorphins to the brain - a natural pain reliever. As you feel better on the inside, you will be able to radiate this on the outside.
3. SIMILARITY
Majority of us are fond of talking to people whom we share common hobbies and values with. So when you meet someone new, know his or her interests first and find a common ground. Use this beloved similarity to your advantage by steering the conversation in that direction.
4. SINCERITY
Robert Hall once said: "A friend should be one in whose understanding and virtue we can equally confide, and whose opinion we can value at once for its justness and its sincerity."
Sincerity is something that cannot be bought and taught. It is a special quality that can make others feel special and appreciated. You can induce sincere interest in a person's state by simply asking "How are you?" or "How was your day?". After which, you need to actively listen to what the person has to say. Believe me when I say that these simple questions may spark a long and intimate conversation.
5. COMPLIMENTING
If you want to befriend someone, you usually show your admiration through compliments. However, there is a fine line between expressing flattery and expressing appreciation. Compliments driven by flattery are usually motivated by selfish reasons while compliments driven by appreciation are usually motivated by gratitude. Thus, the latter comes off as more genuine.
In Dale Carnegie's book called "How to Win Friends and Influence People", he highlighted that flattering comments can get you into trouble as counterfeit money does. Furthermore, researchers have shown that complimenting people with low self-esteem may cause them to like you less because it creates a cognitive dissonance with how they perceive themselves.
6. EMPATHIZING
Empathizing with someone means putting yourself in the other person's shoe. Express empathy by saying supportive statements such as "I understand how you feel."
Increase its impact by adding reflective listening. Reflective listening is when you paraphrase or repeat the essence of what they said in order for them to feel better and to disclose more. If you truly listen and understand what others say, they will become more comfortable with you.
7. FAVORS
The Ben Franklin Effect is a phenomenon wherein Person-A likes Person-B even more if P-A did a favor for P-B. There are many reasons why this phenomenon may work, namely:
a. A person who once showed you kindness is more ready to show another to you than one who is obliged to do so.
b. When a person does someone a favor, they feel good about themselves so they do it again.
c. People want to keep a cognitive balance - balance in their behaviors and beliefs.
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But please, do not overuse this tip! :)
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1 comments
One good way to get people to like you is to comment on their blogs. Keep up the good work, Miss P.!
ReplyDeleteWhat is on your mind? I will get back to you as soon as possible! Thank you. :)